Westchester’s 25th Annual

Father Daughter Prom





Dearest Westchester Father-Daughter Prom Community,

With the COVID-19/Coronavirus epidemic spreading, we unfortunately have made the heavy decision to cancel the Prom for 2020. Below this email, we’ve provided more explanation on the factors that led to this decision, in case you are interested. This letter is mainly to let you know about the cancellation and send an encouragement to you dads during these trying times.

As the sponsor of the Prom for many years, Del Rey Church was prayerful and thoughtful in making this decision. We consulted with epidemiologists and experts in the field, along with our governmental authorities and faith-community resources. We understand that this may be disappointing for many of you to hear, as it was disappointing for us to come to this conclusion. Our daughters were sad when we told them, so this is personal to us as it is to you. That said, be encouraged dads! We hope you dads will pull together in smaller groups (right now the government wants us to stay under 10) and do something to make your daughters and young girls without dads in your life feel special and prized.

We deeply desire to see the relationships between dads and their daughters strengthened through this event and are bummed to have had to make this decision, but we believe it is what is best for the public health of the community in light of the spread of the coronavirus.

We know that many of you look forward to this event all year because of what a special memory it creates for dads and daughters. This may even be the last year your daughter will be young enough to attend, and the thought of missing that special time together may be emotional for you. But the good news is you don’t have to miss out on that special time. As dads, we can pull together to bless the young girls of our community. Feel free to email us encouraging notes or pictures of things you do, so we can encourage other dads and daughters.

As we monitor the coronavirus, we will keep you up-to-date in terms of plans for 2021. In the meantime, our prayers are with you and yours. Keep in touch. Blessings to your daughters and communities.


Del Rey Church and the Father-Daughter Prom Volunteers



Below we have outlined some of the key reasons we have chosen to cancel the event.


Location: The Father Daughter Prom is traditionally held at Saint Bernard’s High School which is owned and operated by the Los Angeles Archdioceses. The LA Archdioceses has closed their schools until further notice and are not allowing outside organizations to reserve space for events. Other venues for hosting the event are much more costly and would greatly increase the price of tickets for families which are traditionally low since the Prom is a nonprofit event.

Government Restrictions: As of March 16, Los Angeles County has prohibited gatherings of over 50 people. In addition, LA County has ordered event organizers of gatherings of 10-49 people to ensure that attendees follow specific social distancing measures. The President even recommended for groups to stay under 10 if possible. The Father Daughter Prom typically has over 400 families participating with close to 1,200 dads and their daughters attending the event. This well exceeds what is being deemed as safe to prevent the rapid spread of COVID-19. In addition, since social distancing is the best way to slow the spread of the virus, even if we limited the number of attendees for this year’s Prom, it would be nearly impossible to keep the social distancing standards recommended in this type of setting.

Question you might be asking yourself: What if the government lifts the ban or the virus slows significantly before the Prom? Why cancel now instead of waiting to see what happens?

Answer 1: The various vendors we hire for the Prom require a deposit to hold the date which is non-refundable. Without having a venue in place, it would be financially irresponsible to pay vendors a deposit for services that we may have to cancel. As well, the coronavirus is impacting our donorship and church finances that annually gives to keep the event very affordable for dads. So, we are unfortunately cutting spending and currently closing down the church’s Sunday worship service to protect the community from a large gathering that could spread the virus. Suffice it to say, these are hard times.

Answer 2: The Prom is no small event to plan and execute. Most of the work is done by volunteers and there are a lot of moving parts that begin to be put in place months before the event actually occurs, not to mention volunteer meetings beforehand that are over the current 10 governmental limit on groups. Even if the gathering bans were lifted sometime in mid-April, which seems to be the earliest possibility, there just wouldn’t be enough time or man power to pull it off in such a short amount of time.

Is there anything we can do to help? Yes. Let’s work together as dads to make our girls feel special, especially during a time when they have already lost school, sports, etc. Many of you come to the prom with other dads and you’re connected in the community, so grab other dads and work relationally to bless the girls around you. The dads in our church are currently brainstorming about a way to do this and of course, you’re invited to the church anytime to participate. You may already have a church too, so that’s a great place to start. Church might not be your thing, so you could start with other dads from your daughter’s school or sports team (or even guys who are coworkers with daughters).

This is a great opportunity to start a new tradition in addition to the Father Daughter Prom with your daughters. Take them out (in a way that follows government restrictions). Treat them special. Show them how much they mean to you. Give them a memory that they will cherish well into their adult life. This doesn’t mean you have to spend a lot of money either. Special doesn’t have to be big or expensive. With all that is going on in the world with the coronavirus, this year, in particular, might be one of the few that stands out to them as they get older. So, make it a year to remember for them; the year the Father Daughter Prom was canceled, but the year their dad took them out on an amazing date and made them feel like the most special person in the world.

If you have questions, please don’t hesitate to let us know. Again, blessings to you and y